Cash gifts and bank details: how to ask with elegance

Published 5 June 2026

Asking for a cash contribution is common now, but how you word it makes all the difference. Here's how to include your bank details in the invitation tastefully, without it feeling like a demand.

Presence first, gift second

The golden rule: always put your guests' presence at the centre, not the gift. The contribution should be presented as a kind option for those who wish, never as an expectation.

Good wording thanks them, explains the reason (the honeymoon, the new home) and only then provides the bank details.

Ready-to-use wording

“Your presence is the greatest gift. For anyone who'd like to contribute to our honeymoon, here are our bank details.”
“We want nothing but to share this day with you. Anyone who wishes to give us something can contribute to our new home.”
“Your company is the gift that matters. Should you wish to give something, you'll find the details below.”

Where to put your bank details

Avoid putting the bank details front and centre in the invitation. The ideal place is a FAQ section or a “registry” page, where interested guests find them without it being the first thing they see.

In a digital invitation you can hide them behind a “Show details” button: discreet for everyone, handy for those who look.

Mistakes to avoid

Putting the details in the opening or next to your names.
Stating amounts or suggested figures: it always feels awkward.
Using a tone that seems to demand the gift.
Forgetting the account holder's name next to the details.

A detail that matters

Always state the account holder next to the details, so guests can transfer without hesitation. A small “Account holder: Laura and Marco” avoids questions and makes everything smoother.